i looked at minti.com, a parenting advice community and it reminded me of this quote which i have carried with me since my late adolescence:

for ultimately, and precisely in the deepest and most important matters, we are unspeakably alone; and many things must happen, many things must go right, a whole constellation of events must be fulfilled, for one human being to successfully advise or help another.
-Rainer Maria Rilke Letters to a young poet